What Is The "Perfect" Valentines Day?
Tomorrow is February 14th, the day where romances peak and couples exchange chocolates in heart-shaped boxes to express their love and affection for each other. Flower shops are again reminded why they are still in business, and restaurants have all tables completely booked all night long as couples get dressed up to spend quality time together over dinner.
Can Valentine’s day be stressful though? Throughout the years, I have had the chance to observe and listen to my friends and other people who are in relationships. I have taken notice that some people forget that Valentine’s Day is approaching and bolt to the mall to pick up the first fluffy stuffed animal they can find, grab the closest bundle of flowers - either red or pink ones - and search through the picked-over cards at Shopper's Drug Mart to find one that they think their partner will hopefully like. No, not stressful at all.
My question for today is why do they have to be so stressed? Also, why do couples feel that in order to show their love they need to purchase material things? It appears that the focus on Valentine’s Day is about making the most perfect day possible for their partner, and that perfect day consists of spending money on a fancy dinner and roses and expensive wine. Now don’t get me wrong, I’m not saying don’t buy things for your partner because sure, why not? But why are we so fixated on the concept of Valentine’s Day being a certain way—that way being perfection?
What I am trying to say, is that I believe a perfect day is false if forced. It is just not possible to create a day that is perfect, because I believe perfection cannot be constructed. That being said, I don’t believe perfection is non-existent. I believe perfection is in fact discovered in places that are least prepared. Places where thoughts and actions have real meaning without them being planned that way. Perfection cannot be searched for in the aisles of Shopper's Drug Mart. So why stress about what colour flowers you buy? I don’t believe that should be a crucial element to a perfect Valentine’s Day. On the contrary, I think flowers should be thought of as the sprinkles on top of a cupcake, but not the cupcake itself.
Okay so, the moral of the story is break away from the formula that Valentine’s Day has built. Don’t stress about making the day perfect, but rather stress about straying too far from what is real and most important, which is of course, spending a pleasant day with the people you love most. And chocolate. Don’t be mistaken by this moral of the story: chocolate is always a must.
Happy Valentine’s Day.